A Story of Transition, A Mother's Grief
I want to talk about what is sometimes considered a taboo subject (and feeling) when it comes to our transgender children and that is our grief. Grief is a very natural and necessary step in the course of processing a loss. And this includes the transition of our children. BUT what is key here is understanding WHAT we are grieving. We are grieving the loss of OUR dreams, not our child. When I realized I was pregnant with my first born, the rose colored glasses were planted immediately and firmly in front of my eyes. I think I literally walked around in lala land from day one. My head was in the clouds dreaming of life with this beautiful child growing within me. Once my child was born those dreams continued becoming even more vivid…all the firsts through the early years, and then first date, prom, college, the wedding, my first grandchild. All of the major events of my child’s life played out in my heart and mind. But they were MY visions, my dreams. And t
